Comments on: An optimistic funeral? http://www.optimysticinstitute.com/1728/an-optimistic-funeral/ Practical inner skills for social transformation to help cocreate our positive future Wed, 04 Jan 2012 10:50:48 +0000 hourly 1 By: Jennifer Mathews http://www.optimysticinstitute.com/1728/an-optimistic-funeral/comment-page-1/#comment-48 Jennifer Mathews Wed, 31 Mar 2010 05:37:28 +0000 http://www.optimysticinstitute.com/?p=1728#comment-48 Thank you, Uncle David! Yes, live NOW. Always. The bittersweet reminder that comes with the death of someone we love so dearly. Thank you, Uncle David! Yes, live NOW. Always. The bittersweet reminder that comes with the death of someone we love so dearly.

]]> By: Uncle Dave http://www.optimysticinstitute.com/1728/an-optimistic-funeral/comment-page-1/#comment-46 Uncle Dave Wed, 31 Mar 2010 03:32:53 +0000 http://www.optimysticinstitute.com/?p=1728#comment-46 I miss my father because I will not see him in the same sense that I used to see him. Now, he will always be with me, in a different way. Life is wonderful. Death is part of life. We (Gina, Diane, Teresa and I) were fortunate to be with him for his last 36 hours. Day and night. By his side. We assisted his passage. Spoke calming loving words to him throughout. Kept him comfortable. We gave him all the love we could. He knew that, although he couldn't acknowledge. He couldn't look. He couldn't talk. He could hear. Eventually, we saw his last breath. He died peacefully and without pain. This may sound morbid, but it was beautiful. I do not mourn yet for my father. I do not mourn because of loss. I will mourn him when I miss him. I did not cry at his death. I didn't miss him yet. There is no beginning. There is no end. There is only now. We live now. And now is forever. It is everything. Past is only what now used to be. And future is only the possibilities of what now can be. I will miss him. I have no pain. Love, Uncle Dave... I miss my father because I will not see him in the same sense that I used to see him. Now, he will always be with me, in a different way. Life is wonderful. Death is part of life. We (Gina, Diane, Teresa and I) were fortunate to be with him for his last 36 hours. Day and night. By his side. We assisted his passage. Spoke calming loving words to him throughout. Kept him comfortable. We gave him all the love we could. He knew that, although he couldn’t acknowledge. He couldn’t look. He couldn’t talk. He could hear. Eventually, we saw his last breath. He died peacefully and without pain. This may sound morbid, but it was beautiful.

I do not mourn yet for my father. I do not mourn because of loss. I will mourn him when I miss him. I did not cry at his death. I didn’t miss him yet.

There is no beginning. There is no end. There is only now. We live now. And now is forever. It is everything. Past is only what now used to be. And future is only the possibilities of what now can be. I will miss him. I have no pain.

Love,
Uncle Dave…

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